How do you deal with disappointment in love?

Disappointment in love

Disappointment in love, whether it is caused by a break-up, infidelity, betrayal or one-sided love, is always painful. When they are repeated, the consequences for the person experiencing them can be destructive. Tired of being disappointed in love? Wondering why it always happens to you? Here are some tips to help you avoid further romantic disappointments.

Repeated disappointments in love: what consequences?

We speak of disappointment in love when we suffer a heavy disillusionment from the person we love. Break-up, betrayal, unrequited love, adultery... The causes of disappointments in love are multiple. But the consequences are often the same: suffering and the impression of having been duped. When disappointments in love are repeated, self-confidence and self-esteem take a hit. The future of love for people who have experienced repeated disappointments in love is then fragile because their vision of love has been damaged.

Why does the same pattern keep repeating itself?

Some disappointments in love are inevitable. They are beneficial in the sense that they teach us more about love and about ourselves. On the other hand, when they are almost systematic, it is problematic because they weaken us. Rather than moping around saying that you'll never have a chance at love, try to understand why you keep repeating the same patterns. There are several reasons for repeated disappointments in love:

1. You idealise the other person too much, right from the start of the relationship. It is normal to idealise your partner and your relationship in the beginning. But be careful, keep your feet on the ground. Keep in mind that in a relationship there are ups and downs and that the other person is not perfect. The more you idealise, the harder the fall will be in case of conflict, or even break-up.
2. You are looking for what you have always known in love. The fact that you have had many disappointments in love can be linked to your childhood. If as a child you were used to complicated or even toxic family relationships, there is a risk that you will look for similar characteristics in your partner to the people who loved you from the beginning of your life. Our unconscious mind pushes us to go towards what we know. If you have not experienced healthy relationships in the past, you will not go to the right people because you do not know that it is possible to love and be loved differently.

How to avoid disappointment in love?

Fortunately, it is possible to recover from a disappointment in love but also to protect yourself for the future.

By having self-confidence

It is normal to have doubts about yourself after a disappointment in love, but the pain should not overwhelm you for too long. Once you have gone through the mourning phase, it is important to do everything you can to avoid further disappointments. How can you do this? By regaining your self-confidence! Self-confidence and self-esteem are two essential elements in maintaining healthy relationships. You know what you want and what you don't want in a relationship. Also, you are able to spot potentially toxic people and run away from them. Because toxic personalities most often prey on people with low self-esteem. After a disappointment in love, take the time to think about what you need to develop yourself, highlight your best assets, go out to meet new people without necessarily thinking about getting back together as soon as possible and try new things (new sports activities, new travel destinations...). By loving yourself, you give off a positive image of yourself, which others like.

By learning from your mistakes

"Everything that doesn't rise to consciousness comes back as fate," said the famous psychologist Carl Gustav Jung. If you don't learn from your mistakes, you will repeat them again and again. After several disappointments in love, it is necessary to take stock of those relationships that did not work out and to become aware of the causes of these failures. Make a list of things you no longer want in future relationships. This will allow you to avoid going back to profiles that have disappointed you in the past. Disappointments in love hurt, but at least they help us to clarify our expectations in love.

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What are the early signs of dementia?

Dementia: recognising the early signs

While the majority of people with dementia are over 65 years of age, in very rare cases it can be seen in younger individuals. How can we identify the first signs of dementia? How can we support people suffering from this syndrome? Here are some answers.

What is dementia?

According to the World Health Organisation (WHO), dementia "is one of the leading causes of disability and dependence among older people worldwide". It may also be referred to as senile dementia.

It is a syndrome that is most often progressive and degrades the cognitive function of the person. Although this pathology almost exclusively affects the elderly, "it is not a normal part of ageing", says the WHO.

The symptoms of dementia

Symptoms can vary from one individual to another. While the first signs may go unnoticed by those around them, they intensify over time until they usually lead to a total loss of independence. Several stages of dementia can be identified.

The first signs

• Memory loss.
• Disorientation, even in familiar places.
• Loss of sense of time.

The second stage of the disease

• Severe memory loss: difficulty remembering people's names or recent events.
• Difficulty performing everyday tasks such as eating, washing or going to the toilet.
• Problems in using language.
• Severe disorientation.

Late stage dementia

• Total loss of independence.
• Personality changes and aggression.
• Difficulty moving around.
• Loss of sense of time and place.
• Inability to remember loved ones and past events.

In advanced stages of the disease, the person may "have difficulty swallowing food without choking. These problems increase the risk of malnutrition, pneumonia (often due to inhalation of secretions or particles through the mouth) and bedsores (because they cannot move).

The different forms of dementia

Degenerative dementias represent the vast majority of cases of neurological diseases leading to an alteration in cognitive abilities. Examples include :

• Dementia with Lewy bodies: this causes hallucinations, motor disorders, mood and behavioural disorders, among other things;
• Frontotemporal dementia: is characterised by several symptoms such as personality changes, physical neglect, inappropriate behaviour and disinterest in loved ones. Amnesia occurs in a second stage of the disease;
• Alzheimer's disease: the most common. It is manifested by memory loss, disorientation, behavioural changes, and difficulties in speaking and writing.

Some dementias are not degenerative, i.e. they do not result from a degeneration of neurons like vascular dementia. It most often affects people with vascular comorbidities. It is the result of strokes.

The causes of dementia

Dementia is caused by different types of diseases affecting the brain. The best known is Alzheimer's disease.

Stroke is also a risk factor in the development of dementia.

Can dementia be cured?

At present, there is no real treatment to cure dementia or to slow down its progression. Early diagnosis of the disease and the introduction of a treatment will nevertheless make it possible to accompany and relieve the patients on a daily basis.

On its website, the WHO states that the risk of dementia can be reduced by :

• exercising regularly
• not smoking
• avoiding harmful use of alcohol
• controlling your weight
• eating a healthy diet
• maintaining healthy levels of blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar.

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What is fate? What does fate in life mean?

Fate is a sequence of events that form the fabric of a human life or a community. These events seem to be predefined, ordered by a higher or immanent power in the universe.

To act or to suffer in the face of fate? In this article, find out everything you need to know about fate and how to interpret it.

What is fate?

From the Latin "destinare", which means "to fix", fate is a sequence of events that form the framework of a human life or a community and that seems predefined, ordered by a higher power or immanent to the universe.

This sequence of events is opposed to chance and free will, while it comes close to the term fatality: it is indeed difficult, if not impossible, to escape one's fate.

In the Dictionary of Philosophical Concepts, Michel Blay refers to it as a "force of what happens and which seems to be imposed on us without any of our actions being able to change anything".

The origin of fate

The philosophical belief in fate originates from an attachment to explaining nature solely by means of matter and by establishing a causal link between things.

"If everything happens by virtue of antecedent causes, then all events are closely connected, naturally interwoven with one another, and if this is so, then everything is subject to necessity', argues Cicero.

Nevertheless, it is difficult to believe that man waited until antiquity to believe in fate.

This notion certainly arose before any philosophical reflection and even before any organised religion. It was a plausible answer to questions about unexplainable phenomena and had the merit of being simple: a single force, the expression of a higher will or inherent necessity, explained chaos.

Most cultures seem to have always rejected the idea of chance and free will.

Even today, with the decline of traditional religions, people still attach great importance to fate and determinism.

To act or to suffer in the face of fate?

The etymology of the word "destiny" tells us that it refers to fixation, determination, resolution or a decided project. Does this mean that life is only submission for those who believe in destiny?

Some authors, claiming to be stoics, believe that man has no impact on the course of events, however small.

Any hope of escaping his fate would therefore be vain. In other words: man's freedom does not exist and his responsibility is nil. Everything is dictated to him.

This does not necessarily translate into unhappiness while waiting for death: the Stoics claim that happiness is attainable for all those who voluntarily submit to their destiny by accepting the fate that awaits them.

On the contrary, other authors think that fate is only a global framework within which man has a certain freedom.

Fate does not control every moment of life. However, it does control the most important aspects of life, such as death and the major encounters in life.

Whatever happens, fate always wins. This does not prevent some people from wanting to escape fate and choose their own destiny.

Inspirational quotes

"For the ancients, the notion of fate, of fatum, does not lead to fatalistic submission or ascetic renunciation. On the contrary, it stimulates the desire for action.

Fatum is above all perceived as a challenge to man, a challenge which man knows very well in advance that he will never be able to meet entirely, but which he must nevertheless take up, because it is by taking it up that he gives meaning to his existence. It is because there is a destiny that the response that man can try to make to it is, in the true sense, heroic.

It is because there is a destiny that we must try to make our mark on it. By acquiring the intuition of his destiny, man is not less free; on the contrary, he recovers his fundamental freedom, which is first and foremost the privilege of consenting while acting.

"Fatum is an exhilarating idea when you understand that you yourself are part of it - There is only one path in the world that no one can follow but yourself. Voluntarily follow this path that others follow blindly. Nietzsche.

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Must y Have To, ¿Cuáles son las diferencias?

Gramática Inglesa - English Grammar - Recursos Educativos en inglés

Cuándo usar MUST y HAVE TO

Puedes dudar entre el must y el have to. ¡Es cierto que son muy parecidos! En la forma afirmativa, ambos expresan obligación. La diferencia está en la forma negativa. Te lo explico todo a continuación:

Must

Must es un modal, o auxiliar modal. Aquí tienes una lección específica sobre MUST.

Se utiliza justo antes de la base verbal.

I must do my food. Debo hacer mi comida. (obligación).

Vemos que justo después de must, pongo una base verbal, es decir, el infinitivo, sin la palabra To. Esto es invariable. Nunca habrá una conjugación después de MUST o después de cualquier modal.

• She must talk.
• They must study.
• We must be quiet.

Talk, study, be: Vemos que sea cual sea el verbo, no hay conjugación después de Must.

HAVE TO

Es casi lo mismo, pero (necesariamente), está el TO antes del verbo. Tomemos el mismo ejemplo:

I have to do my food. Tengo que hacer mi comida. (obligación).

Do está en infinitivo y también es invariable.

• She has to talk.
• They have to study.
• We have to be quiet.

Talk, study, be: Los verbos están en infinitivo y, por tanto, también son invariables.

Must y have to: ¿Significan lo mismo?

Como hemos visto en los ejemplos anteriores, ambas formas expresan la obligación en sentido afirmativo.

Para ser realmente precisos, podemos señalar que hay pequeños matices entre ambos. De hecho, have to se utiliza cuando la obligación viene de fuera, cuando alguien o algo distinto a nosotros nos impone la obligación. Pero es una cuestión de matiz, y se pueden utilizar las dos expresiones indistintamente, porque están muy cerca.

Las cosas cambiarán cuando hablemos en forma negativa:

Mustn't y Don't have to: un significado diferente en la forma negativa

Volvamos al mismo ejemplo, pero con Mustn't (o Must Not, es lo mismo):

• I Mustn't do my food. No debo hacer mi comida.

Esto significa que NO DEBO hacer la comida. 

Sin embargo, si utilizo Don't have to, el significado NO es el mismo:

• I Don't have to do my food. / I do not have to do my food.

Esto significa que no tengo que hacer la comida.

Mustn't es la prohibición.
Don't have to no es ninguna obligación.

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Cómo usar Must y should - Diferencias

Gramática Inglesa - English Grammar - Recursos Educativos en inglés

Should y must son modales que se utilizan para expresar la noción de deber u obligación, pero en diferentes grados.

En resumen, must expresa obligación, mientras que should expresa la idea "debería", que es menos fuerte que la obligación.

Must: expresa obligación o prohibición

Si yo digo:

You must work if you want to succeed. Esto significa que debes trabajar, estás obligado a hacerlo, si quieres tener éxito.

Esto es más fuerte que si hubiera dicho "You should work if you want to succeed." En este caso, la idea es más bien que "debes trabajar si quieres tener éxito". Es más bien un consejo, una sugerencia.

Should: Expresión de un consejo, una recomendación

Tomemos un segundo ejemplo, con el must, y luego con el should:

You must eat now. Debes comer ahora. Es una obligación, debes hacerlo.

Según el contexto, es una orden, o una situación en la que es muy importante comer inmediatamente.

Por otro lado, si tomo la misma frase con should, se da:

You should eat now. En este caso, estoy diciendo que "deberías comer ahora". Es un consejo que te doy, una recomendación. No es tan fuerte como con con must.

Forma negativa - Mustn’t, o must not

Must en la forma negativa se escribe must not o mustn't. Ambos significan lo mismo.

Expresan exactamente lo contrario del must: es decir, la prohibición.

Pongamos un ejemplo:

You mustn’t walk on the carpet. No debes pisar la alfombra. Lo que significa que debes mantenerte alejado de la alfombra.

Forma negativa - Shouldn’t o should not

Should en la forma negativa se escribe should not o should't. Expresa una crítica o sugerencia más bien negativa. Significa "no debes...".

Tomemos el mismo ejemplo:

You shouldn’t walk on the carpet. No deberías pisar la alfombra. Te estoy dando el consejo, te estoy diciendo que no debes caminar sobre ella. También en este caso, no es tan fuerte como el mustn't.

Otro uso de MUST

También podemos utilizar must para traducir algo de lo que estamos bastante seguros. Por ejemplo, digamos que no tengo reloj, pero estoy seguro de que son las diez. Puedo decir: It must be around 10 o’clock now. Deben ser alrededor de las 10 en punto.

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Poems Of Emily Dickinson - Poemas en inglés

Poems Of Emily Dickinson - Recursos Educativos en Inglés - Poems in English - Poesías en inglés

If I Can Stop One Heart From Breaking - Emily Dickinson

If I can stop one heart from breaking,
I shall not live in vain;
If I can ease one life the aching,
Or cool one pain,
Or help one fainting robin
Unto his nest again,
I shall not live in vain.

There Is Another Sky - Emily Dickinson

There is another sky,
Ever serene and fair,
And there is another sunshine,
Though it be darkness there;
Never mind faded forests, Austin,
Never mind silent fields -
Here is a little forest,
Whose leaf is ever green;
Here is a brighter garden,
Where not a frost has been;
In its unfading flowers
I hear the bright bee hum:
Prithee, my brother,
Into my garden come!

Before The Ice Is In The Pools - Emily Dickinson

Before the ice is in the pools—
Before the skaters go,
Or any check at nightfall
Is tarnished by the snow—

Before the fields have finished,
Before the Christmas tree,
Wonder upon wonder
Will arrive to me!

What we touch the hems of
On a summer's day—
What is only walking
Just a bridge away—

That which sings so—speaks so—
When there's no one here—
Will the frock I wept in
Answer me to wear?

Hope Is The Thing With Feathers - Emily Dickinson

"Hope" is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops at all

And sweetest in the Gale is heard
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little Bird
That kept so many warm

I've heard it in the chillest land
And on the strangest Sea
Yet never in Extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.

One Sister Have I In Our House - Emily Dickinson

One Sister have I in our house,
And one, a hedge away.
There's only one recorded,
But both belong to me.

One came the road that I came
And wore my last year's gown
The other, as a bird her nest,
Builded our hearts among.

She did not sing as we did --
It was a different tune --
Herself to her a music
As Bumble bee of June.

Today is far from Childhood
But up and down the hills
I held her hand the tighter
Which shortened all the miles

And still her hum
The years among,
Deceives the Butterfly;
Still in her Eye
The Violets lie
Mouldered this many May.

I spilt the dew
But took the morn
I chose this single star
From out the wide night's numbers
Sue - forevermore!

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Palace of Westminster. Information about London

The Palace of Westminster is the current House of Parliament of the United Kingdom, home to the House of Lords and the House of Commons.

The neo-Gothic style building is located on the north bank of the River Thames and was declared a UNESCO World Heritage Site in 1987. It is built on the site of the old palace, which was devastated by fire in 1834. Only the Jewel Tower, the Crypt and St Stephen's Cloister were saved.

The new Palace of Westminster was begun in 1840 and completed in 1870, at which time the famous Clock Tower or Big Ben was added.

In addition to Big Ben, the Victoria Tower, erected in 1860, stands out. It is the place where the records of the House of Lords and the House of Commons have been kept since 1497.

The oldest part of Parliament is Westminster Hall, a huge hall dating from 1097 that has witnessed important events such as numerous state trials, ceremonial speeches by the crown and banquets.

Location: London SW1A 0AA, Reino Unido - Telephone: +44 20 7219 3000

Underground: Westminster Station on the Yellow (Circle), Green (District) and Grey (Jubilee) lines.
Bus: Lines 3, 12, 53, 53, 87, 88, 148, 159, 214, 453, 510, C10.

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