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Cómo usar Can y Could - Verbos modales

Gramática Inglesa - English Grammar - Recursos Educativos en inglés

Can y could son modales que se utilizan para expresar diferentes matices de posibilidad.

CAN

1 - En primer lugar, el modal can significa lo que uno es capaz de hacer o lo que uno sabe hacer.

Por ejemplo:

• I can play the piano. Puedo tocar el piano.
• I can climb the mountain. Puedo escalar la montaña.

2 - En segundo lugar, el modal can significa lo que se puede hacer.

• You can leave now if you like. Puedes irte ahora si quieres. - Es una especie de permiso.

3 - El tercer significado del modal can es expresar lo que puede ocurrir, lo que es posible. También en este caso se trata de una forma de posibilidad.

Por ejemplo:

The weather can be very bad in this town. El tiempo puede ser muy malo en esta ciudad

En resumen: El primer significado de can, en la forma afirmativa, es expresar diferentes tipos de posibilidades.

Can't o cannot = can en forma negativa

1 - La forma negativa del modal Can se utiliza para expresar lo que no somos capaces de hacer o no podemos hacer.

CAN'T es la contracción de CANNOT. Ambos significan exactamente lo mismo y pueden utilizarse.

Por ejemplo: I can speak French, but I can’t or I cannot speak Japanese. Sé hablar francés, pero no sé o no puedo hablar japonés.

2 - Los modales CAN'T o CANNOT se utilizan para expresar lo que está prohibido.

Por ejemplo: Sorry, you can't go through. Lo siento, no puedes pasar. (No puedes, está prohibido).

3 - Expresar lo que no es posible.

Si me dicen algo que parece realmente increíble, puedo responder:

This cannot be true. Esto no puede ser cierto.

COULD

El modal could puede representar el tiempo pasado de can o el condicional de can.

1 - Uso del modal could en el sentido condicional de can

Ejemplo: I could play the piano, if I had one. Podría tocar el piano, si tuviera uno.

2 - Uso del modal could en el contexto del tiempo pasado

Ejemplo: I could speak Japanese but I stopped practicing, so I can’t anymore. Podía hablar japonés, pero dejé de practicarlo, así que ya no puedo.

La diferencia entre "¿can...?" y "¿could...? :

Cuando se habla en forma interrogativa con CAN o COULD, se puede utilizar para hacer una petición, para expresar una consulta. Por ejemplo, si digo "Can you call me?", estoy preguntando ¿Me puedes llamar? Sin embargo, también es posible decir, Could you call me? ¿Cuál es la diferencia? Es una diferencia en el grado de cortesía.

*** NUNCA utilizamos el modal Can en el tiempo futuro, es decir, nunca diremos "I will can". WILL es un modal y CAN es otro modal y no pondremos dos modales uno tras otro.

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Dictates in English - Textos para dictados en Inglés - 06

Recursos educativos en inglés. Textos en inglés, idóneos para dictados y traducciones. Ideal para aprender inglés, practicar vocabulario, pronunciación y mucho más, de una manera divertida.

The Man and His Two Wives

In the old days, when men were allowed to have many wives, a middle-aged Man had one wife that was old and one that was young; each loved him very much, and desired to see him like herself. Now the Man’s hair was turning grey, which the young Wife did not like, as it made him look too old for her husband. So every night she used to comb his hair and pick out the white ones. But the elder Wife saw her husband growing grey with great pleasure, for she did not like to be mistaken for his mother. So every morning she used to arrange his hair and pick out as many of the black ones as she could. The consequence was the Man soon found himself entirely bald.

Yield to all and you will soon have nothing to yield.

The Nurse and the Wolf

‘Be quiet now,’ said an old Nurse to a child sitting on her lap. ‘If you make that noise again I will throw you to the Wolf.’

Now it chanced that a Wolf was passing close under the window as this was said. So he crouched down by the side of the house and waited. ‘I am in good luck to-day,’ thought he. ‘It is sure to cry soon, and a daintier morsel I haven’t had for many a long day.’ So he waited, and he waited, and he waited, till at last the child began to cry, and the Wolf came forward before the window, and looked up to the Nurse, wagging his tail. But all the Nurse did was to shut down the window and call for help, and the dogs of the house came rushing out. ‘Ah,’ said the Wolf as he galloped away,

‘Enemies promises were made to be broken.’

The Tortoise and the Birds

A Tortoise desired to change its place of residence, so he asked an Eagle to carry him to his new home, promising her a rich reward for her trouble. The Eagle agreed and seizing the Tortoise by the shell with her talons soared aloft. On their way they met a Crow, who said to the Eagle: ‘Tortoise is good eating.’ ‘The shell is too hard,’ said the Eagle in reply. ‘The rocks will soon crack the shell,’ was the Crow’s answer; and the Eagle, taking the hint, let fall the Tortoise on a sharp rock, and the two birds made a hearty meal of the Tortoise.

Never soar aloft on an enemy’s opinions.

The Two Crabs

One fine day two Crabs came out from their home to take a stroll on the sand. ‘Child,’ said the mother, ‘you are walking very ungracefully. You should accustom yourself, to walking straight forward without twisting from side to side.’

‘Pray, mother,’ said the young one, ‘do but set the example yourself, and I will follow you.’

Example is the best precept.

The Ass in the Lion’s Skin

An Ass once found a Lion’s skin which the hunters had left out in the sun to dry. He put it on and went towards his native village. All fled at his approach, both men and animals, and he was a proud Ass that day. In his delight he lifted up his voice and brayed, but then every one knew him, and his owner came up and gave him a sound cudgelling for the fright he had caused. And shortly afterwards a Fox came up to him and said: ‘Ah, I knew you by your voice.

Fine clothes may disguise, but silly words will disclose a fool.

The Two Fellows and the Bear

Two Fellows were travelling together through a wood, when a Bear rushed out upon them. One of the travellers happened to be in front, and he seized hold of the branch of a tree, and hid himself among the leaves. The other, seeing no help for it, threw himself flat down upon the ground, with his face in the dust. The Bear, coming up to him, put his muzzle close to his ear, and sniffed and sniffed. But at last with a growl he shook his head and slouched off, for bears will not touch dead meat.

Then the fellow in the tree came down to his comrade, and, laughing, said ‘What was it that Master Bruin whispered to you?’

‘He told me,’ said the other,‘Never trust a friend who deserts you at a pinch.’

The Two Pots

Two Pots had been left on the bank of a river, one of brass, and one of earthenware. When the tide rose they both floated off down the stream. Now the earthenware pot tried its best to keep aloof from the brass one, which cried out: ‘Fear nothing, friend, I will not strike you.’‘But I may come in contact with you,’ said the other,‘if I come too close; and whether I hit you, or you hit me, I shall suffer for it.’

The strong and the weak cannot keep company.

The Four Oxen and the Lion

A Lion used to prowl about a field in which Four Oxen used to dwell. Many a time he tried to attack them; but whenever he came near they turned their tails to one another, so that whichever way he approached them he was met by the horns of one of them. At last, however, they fell a-quarrelling among themselves, and each went off to pasture alone in a separate corner of the field. Then the Lion attacked them one by one and soon made an end of all four.

United we stand, divided we fall.

The Fisher and the Little Fish

It happened that a Fisher, after fishing all day, caught only a little fish. ‘Pray, let me go, master,’ said the Fish. ‘I am much too small for your eating just now. If you put me back into the river I shall soon grow, then you can make a fine meal off me.’

‘Nay, nay, my little Fish,’ said the Fisher, ‘I have you now. I may not catch you hereafter.’

A little thing in hand is worth more than a great thing in prospect.

Avaricious and Envious

Two neighbours came before Jupiter and prayed him to grant their hearts’ desire. Now the one was full of avarice, and the other eaten up with envy. So to punish them both, Jupiter granted that each might have whatever he wished for himself, but only on condition that his neighbour had twice as much. The Avaricious man prayed to have a room full of gold. No sooner said than done; but all his joy was turned to grief when he found that his neighbour had two rooms full of the precious metal. Then came the turn of the Envious man, who could not bear to think that his neighbour had any joy at all. So he prayed that he might have one of his own eyes put out, by which means his companion would become totally blind.

Vices are their own punishment.

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A Song of Peace for Kids - Canciones día de la Paz en Inglés

A Song of Peace for Kids

Canciones para Niños en Inglés: Día de la paz - Songs for Children in English: Peace's Day

PEACE
There is a way that we can live and peace is the way
P – E – A – C – E, P – E – A – C – E, P – E – A – C – E
And peace is the way
PEACE is shaking someone’s hand and being a good friend
Clap E-A-C-E, Clap E-A-C-E, Clap E-A-C-E
And being a good friend
PEACE is dancing to the beat and having fun together
Clap, clap A-C-E, clap, clap A-C-E, clap, clap A-C-E
And having fun together
PEACE is sharing your nice smile and spreading lots of sunshine
Clap, clap, clap C-E, clap, clap, clap C-E, clap, clap, clap C-E
And spreading lots of sunshine
PEACE is choosing not to hurt and playing safe together
Clap, clap, clap, clap, E, Clap, clap, clap, clap, E, Clap, clap, clap, clap, E
And playing safe together
PEACE is helping with our hands and being kind to others
Clap, clap, clap, clap, clap, clap, clap, clap
Clap, clap, clap, clap, clap, clap clap
And being kind to others
There is a way that we can live and peace is the way
P – E – A – C – E, P – E – A – C – E, P – E – A – C – E
And peace is the way

Canciones para niños en inglés para el día de la paz. Ideales para favorecer el aprendizaje del idioma, adquirir vocabulario, practicar la pronunciación, etc.

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Ep 131: Principales holidays en estados unidos.

 En el día de hoy tenemos un tema que es muy importante y se trata de los principales días festivos que se celebran en Estados unidos.  Este tema es importante especialmente debido al hecho a que tenemos una gran cercanía con los Estados Unidos y el inglés qué aprendemos esta principalmente por este, lo más natural es que también conozcamos cuales son sus días festivos.

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Thanksgiving Day: El Día de Acción de Gracias en Estados Unidos se celebra el cuarto jueves de noviembre. El Día de Acción de Gracias les da a los estadounidenses la oportunidad de planificar un fin de semana largo de cuatro días. Se celebra desde 1621 marcando la llegada de los puritanos a Massachusetts. El Día de Acción de Gracias es el día con mayor consumo de alimentos del año. Le sigue el Black Friday que marca el inicio de la temporada de compras navideñas y se ha convertido en el día de compras más concurrido y el día con mayor facturación minorista del año en Estados Unidos.

Independence Day: Como este es un feriado federal, no sólo las escuelas y bibliotecas estarán cerradas, la mayoría de las oficinas federales y estatales estarán cerradas y no habrá entregas de correo el Día de la Independencia. Independence day es el día más patriótico y celebrado con entusiasmo de todos los días festivos de Estados Unidos. Habrá desfiles, barbacoas, picnics y fuegos artificiales en todo el país. Es un feriado federal y también un feriado en los 50 estados y otros territorios de los Estados Unidos el 4 de julio. En ese día de 1776, se firmó la declaración de independencia. Los ciudadanos disfrutan de los desfiles y planean picnics y fuegos artificiales.

Martin Luther King Day: La gente rinde homenaje al reverendo Martin Luther King, un afroamericano que luchó contra los derechos civiles. Se observa el 15 de enero de 1986. Cada año, el tercer lunes de enero (lunes 18 de enero de 2021), Estados Unidos honra el nacimiento, la vida y el sueño del Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Como este es un feriado federal, no sólo las escuelas y bibliotecas estarán cerradas, la mayoría de las oficinas federales y estatales estarán cerradas y no habrá entregas de correo el Día de Martin Luther King, Jr.

President ‘s Day – Washington’ s Birthday: El cumpleaños de Washington, también conocido como el Día de los Presidentes, es un feriado federal que se celebra el tercer lunes de febrero. Sin embargo, los registros muestran que el cumpleaños de George Washington es el 22 de febrero. Es un día festivo en los EE. UU. En recuerdo de los presidentes anteriores. No obstante, muchas empresas abren como de costumbre y muchas tiendas realizan ventas en el cumpleaños de Washington. Muchos servicios de entrega, excepto la Oficina de Correos, tienen un servicio regular, y muchos, pero no todos, los sistemas de transporte público operan en horarios regulares. Algunas escuelas cierran durante toda la semana por un receso de mediados de invierno.

Memorial Day: Es un día festivo el cuarto lunes de mayo para honrar a los muertos. El Día de los Caídos es un día festivo. Es un día libre para la población en general, las escuelas y la mayoría de los negocios están cerrados. Es tradicional enarbolar la bandera de los Estados Unidos a media asta desde el amanecer hasta el mediodía. Mucha gente visita cementerios y monumentos, especialmente para honrar a los que han muerto en el servicio militar. Muchos voluntarios colocan una bandera estadounidense en cada tumba de los cementerios nacionales.

Easter: La Pascua en los Estados Unidos se celebra tanto de manera religiosa como secular. En muchas comunidades, el aspecto cristiano de la festividad, honrado por Passion Plays y servicios de la iglesia, se combina con visitas del Conejo de Pascua, desfiles y la caza de huevos rellenos de dulces. ¿Cuándo es Pascua? La fecha exacta de Pascua depende del calendario lunar. Cae el primer domingo después de la luna llena que sigue al equinoccio de primavera, lo que lo sitúa en algún momento entre finales de marzo y mediados de abril de cada año.

Christmas Day: El 25 de diciembre se celebra el cumpleaños de Cristo decorando las casas con estrellas, luces y árboles de Navidad. Es una fiesta religiosa para la comunidad cristiana. Muchos estadounidenses, especialmente los cristianos, irán a la Iglesia para celebrar el nacimiento de Jesús en Navidad. Muchas iglesias tienen servicios y eventos especiales de Villancicos en los que se cuenta la historia de la Navidad.
A la gente en Estados Unidos le gusta decorar el exterior de sus casas con luces y, a veces, incluso con estatuas de Papá Noel, muñecos de nieve y renos. ¡Algunas galletas y un vaso de leche a menudo se dejan como bocadillo para Papá Noel en Nochebuena!

New Year Day: El 1 de enero se celebra como día de año nuevo. Es una fiesta donde la celebración comienza la noche anterior. La gente festeja, se divierte y se desea un feliz año nuevo.
La mayoría de las festividades de Año Nuevo comienzan el 31 de diciembre (víspera de Año Nuevo), el último día del calendario gregoriano, y continúan hasta la madrugada del 1 de enero (día de Año Nuevo). Las tradiciones comunes incluyen asistir a fiestas, comer comidas especiales de Año Nuevo, hacer resoluciones para el año nuevo y ver exhibiciones de fuegos artificiales.

Halloween: Cuando eras niño, todo se trataba de dulces. Y todavía lo es, solo de un tipo diferente.
Halloween en los EE. UU. Comprende disfraces exagerados, casas llenas de esqueletos y linternas de calabaza, truco o trato, casas embrujadas, fiestas callejeras y desfiles desde Los Ángeles a Nueva York. Cada ciudad le da su propio giro a los clásicos.

Valentine ‘s Day: En muchos lugares, el Día de San Valentín es para parejas, solo para el amor romántico. ¡No en los Estados Unidos!
En los Estados Unidos, el Día de San Valentín es un gran evento en las escuelas. En la escuela primaria, los niños intercambian tarjetas de San Valentín. Cada niño hará una caja especial y cada estudiante de la clase pondrá una pequeña tarjeta de San Valentín en la caja de todos los demás niños de la clase.

Los adultos también intercambian regalos y tarjetas de San Valentín con familiares y amigos.

St. Patrick ‘s Day: El Día de San Patricio se celebra oficialmente el 17 de marzo de cada año, aunque es posible que las celebraciones no se limiten a esta fecha. El significado del 17 de marzo es que se dice que es la fecha de la muerte de San Patricio a finales del siglo V.
San Patricio es el santo patrón y apóstol nacional de Irlanda. Se le atribuye la exitosa difusión del cristianismo por toda Irlanda, de ahí la celebración cristiana de su vida y su nombre.

Mucha gente usa una prenda de vestir verde durante el día. Las fiestas que ofrecen comida y bebidas irlandesas teñidas de color verde son parte de esta celebración. Es un momento en el que los niños pueden disfrutar de los dulces y los adultos pueden disfrutar de una «pinta» de cerveza en un pub local. Muchos restaurantes y pubs ofrecen comida o bebida irlandesa.

Labor Day: El Día del Trabajo es un feriado legal que se celebra el primer lunes de septiembre en los Estados Unidos, Samoa Americana, Guam, Puerto Rico, la Zona del Canal y las Islas Vírgenes. Es un día libre para la población en general, las escuelas y la mayoría de los negocios están cerrados.
Existe la tradición de no vestirse de blanco después del Día del Trabajo. Este paso en falso de la moda se remonta a finales de la época victoriana. El Emily Post Institute explica que el blanco indica que todavía estás en modo de vacaciones, por lo que, naturalmente, cuando terminó el verano, también lo hizo el vestir de blanco.

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What characterises inner beauty?

"It's the inner beauty that counts. Who hasn't heard this sentence while doubting their looks? We talk a lot about inner beauty without really knowing what it is, as if it were elusive. What characterises inner beauty? How does it benefit us and others? How can we take care of it?

What is inner beauty?

There is no precise definition of inner beauty because it encompasses so many things. We all have a part of inner beauty in each of us because we are born with it. Inner beauty is the image that we have of ourselves and that we reflect to others. It is not the image we project through our physical appearance alone, but the image we project through our inner self. These are all the qualities that make us good to ourselves and to others:

• Listening ;
• Empathy;
• Generosity;
• Understanding ;
• Trust in oneself and in others;
• Solidarity;
• Love of self and love for others;
• Kindness.

Inner beauty encompasses so many important aspects of feeling good about oneself and others that it is difficult to live without it. This is why it is often said that physical beauty is not everything. The rest comes from inner beauty.

How to take care of your inner beauty?

To take care of your inner beauty, it is necessary to go and meet yourself and your inner self. If we want others to find us beautiful inside and out, we must first of all love ourselves. Self-confidence is the essential element that gives us access to our inner beauty. The problem is that not all of us have access to it because of a number of factors that can undermine our confidence and self-esteem. People with low self-esteem and lack of confidence develop defence mechanisms that are incompatible with inner beauty. The child is not basically vicious. Unfortunately, education and certain painful life events can rob us of this capacity to love ourselves and others. So how can we rediscover this inner beauty? By going to meet ourselves. This is not a simple process for everyone because no one taught us how to do it. In fact, from a very young age, we are taught to go towards others but never to go towards ourselves. How can we do this? "To take care of our inner beauty requires a psycho-corporal work which aims at making us aware of our capacities and all our facets in order to regain our self-confidence.

Taking care of yourself

The more you take care of yourself, the better you feel and the more you are able to take care of others and thus share your inner beauty. In concrete terms, this means listening to our physical and mental needs: eating well to feel better in our body, resting when we are tired, taking it easy when we feel stressed, doing sport to release tension, going to the hairdresser when we want a change, redoing our wardrobe when we are tired of our clothes, etc. Finding balance means listening to everything that can relax a person's body and mind, and which, by cause and effect, will help maintain or develop their beauty.

By regaining your self-confidence

The anchoring exercise. This consists of concentrating on a pleasant situation each time negative thoughts pollute your mind and make you doubt. To identify this pleasant moment, sit down in a quiet place and close your eyes. Concentrate on your breathing and recall a positive memory from your life. Relive it in your mind with all the details that make it up. This will make you feel good and valued. Then, whenever your confidence is challenged in the future, you will think of that positive memory. It will be your resource as an anchor to silence those sentences that have paralysed your actions.

By responding to your emotions

To repress your emotions is not to accept who you really are. Putting them at a distance only maintains an unhappiness, a real enemy of inner beauty. We think we are protecting ourselves by avoiding feeling or expressing, but in reality we are hurting ourselves. Stop running away from your emotions. When anger, stress or sadness overwhelm you, welcome them! Our minds and bodies make us feel them for a reason: to help us move forward. For example, when you are angry, settle down with abdominal breathing. Go to meet that anger to find out what it wants you to say. Anger arises when a need has not been expressed,. Identifying that need and doing everything you can to meet it will relieve that anger.
If you make a habit of doing this introspective exercise every time you are in a difficult situation, you will be better able to manage your negative emotions and, above all, to get rid of them so as not to pollute your inner beauty.

The more you feel in tune with yourself, the more receptive others will be to your inner beauty.

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Autophobia: what is the fear of being alone?

A characteristic of our hyper-connected age, autophobia etymologically means "fear of oneself" in Greek, with its two roots auto (self) and phobia (fear). In practice, this phobia means a morbid fear of being alone. It is both a fear of the self and of loneliness, and is experienced by sufferers as a fear of dying, having a panic attack, or feeling suicidal.

What is autophobia?

Being alone from time to time is necessary and sometimes desired in our daily lives. Many people do not like to be alone, but for a small number of people, the discomfort of being alone is pathological and manifests itself in serious physical and mental disorders. Doing everything to avoid loneliness, they sometimes go so far as to surround themselves with people or activities they do not like to avoid facing themselves. Suffering from low self-esteem, these people are said to have a depressive attitude and a tendency to build a "dream" life to cope with the expectations of others.

This anxiety disorder affects both men and women and is rooted in a potential abandonment wound.

How do autophobes feel?

The person with this disorder has an intense and irrational fear of being alone, either now or in the near future. Their primary objective is to avoid being alone at all costs, which means surrounding themselves at all costs, all the time. If, at certain moments, the autophobic person does not succeed in doing this, he or she feels an immense uneasiness, with anguish, anxiety and unreasonable fear. Dysfunctional thoughts appear, such as the belief that danger is imminent, that no one will come to their aid if they need it, that they could die, by an external accident, but also by the fear of having suicidal desires.

At the physiological level, several symptoms may appear:

• Palpitations;
• Dizziness;
• Malaise;
• Tachycardia;
• Sweating, etc.

How autophobes act

At the behavioural level, these people tend to seek approval from others, and are afraid of being rejected and ignored. They have a morose, sometimes depressive attitude. Shunning loneliness as much as possible, they are often anxious and unnatural with others, since they are always dependent on their presence.

These people usually build a dream life for themselves, to conform to the expectations of society and those around them. Today's social networks therefore encourage the appearance of such imaginary and perfect life scenarios, by constructing a perfect "false self" that conforms to the expectations of those around them.

Daily life is greatly impacted, both socially, personally and emotionally, as well as professionally. Such a person is described as autophobic when these symptoms persist over time, at least for a few months.

Origins of autophobia

The roots of autophobia are often hidden in a major abandonment wound, most often in childhood:

• an oversight at the crèche, in the supermarket, in a public place ;
• or a lack of listening;
• a lack of consideration for the child's feelings, leading him or her to believe wrongly that he or she is uninteresting, unlovable or even bad.

Autophobic people often perceive their environment as insecure and lacking in understanding and empathy. Finding oneself with oneself is then a source of suffering, since one finds oneself considered as unappreciated, unloved and unvalued.

Our era also favours the appearance of such anxiety disorders, by allowing people with "perfect" profiles to appear on social networks, physically or socially, and where the competition and the race for "likes" is tough and directly measures social or personal success. Having a smartphone with you at all times, allowing you to be in constant contact with other people, suggests that few people today can really bear to be alone and connected to themselves.

What treatments are available?

Fortunately, there are treatments available to help people with autophobia. There are personal development programmes, which allow one to work on self-esteem, self-affirmation or even narcissistic construction, which are extremely undermined in this pathology.

Of course, one can also call upon psychoanalysis, in individual therapy, which will complete the introspective research on the roots of this malaise, by exploring the causes in childhood, in the link to the parents, the first "others" perceived by the child.

It is also necessary, with the help of a therapist or a coach, or through activities such as meditation or yoga, to relearn how to listen to oneself, to connect with oneself, to look at oneself in a mirror and to learn to know oneself.

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