How do you deal with disappointment in love?

Disappointment in love

Disappointment in love, whether it is caused by a break-up, infidelity, betrayal or one-sided love, is always painful. When they are repeated, the consequences for the person experiencing them can be destructive. Tired of being disappointed in love? Wondering why it always happens to you? Here are some tips to help you avoid further romantic disappointments.

Repeated disappointments in love: what consequences?

We speak of disappointment in love when we suffer a heavy disillusionment from the person we love. Break-up, betrayal, unrequited love, adultery... The causes of disappointments in love are multiple. But the consequences are often the same: suffering and the impression of having been duped. When disappointments in love are repeated, self-confidence and self-esteem take a hit. The future of love for people who have experienced repeated disappointments in love is then fragile because their vision of love has been damaged.

Why does the same pattern keep repeating itself?

Some disappointments in love are inevitable. They are beneficial in the sense that they teach us more about love and about ourselves. On the other hand, when they are almost systematic, it is problematic because they weaken us. Rather than moping around saying that you'll never have a chance at love, try to understand why you keep repeating the same patterns. There are several reasons for repeated disappointments in love:

1. You idealise the other person too much, right from the start of the relationship. It is normal to idealise your partner and your relationship in the beginning. But be careful, keep your feet on the ground. Keep in mind that in a relationship there are ups and downs and that the other person is not perfect. The more you idealise, the harder the fall will be in case of conflict, or even break-up.
2. You are looking for what you have always known in love. The fact that you have had many disappointments in love can be linked to your childhood. If as a child you were used to complicated or even toxic family relationships, there is a risk that you will look for similar characteristics in your partner to the people who loved you from the beginning of your life. Our unconscious mind pushes us to go towards what we know. If you have not experienced healthy relationships in the past, you will not go to the right people because you do not know that it is possible to love and be loved differently.

How to avoid disappointment in love?

Fortunately, it is possible to recover from a disappointment in love but also to protect yourself for the future.

By having self-confidence

It is normal to have doubts about yourself after a disappointment in love, but the pain should not overwhelm you for too long. Once you have gone through the mourning phase, it is important to do everything you can to avoid further disappointments. How can you do this? By regaining your self-confidence! Self-confidence and self-esteem are two essential elements in maintaining healthy relationships. You know what you want and what you don't want in a relationship. Also, you are able to spot potentially toxic people and run away from them. Because toxic personalities most often prey on people with low self-esteem. After a disappointment in love, take the time to think about what you need to develop yourself, highlight your best assets, go out to meet new people without necessarily thinking about getting back together as soon as possible and try new things (new sports activities, new travel destinations...). By loving yourself, you give off a positive image of yourself, which others like.

By learning from your mistakes

"Everything that doesn't rise to consciousness comes back as fate," said the famous psychologist Carl Gustav Jung. If you don't learn from your mistakes, you will repeat them again and again. After several disappointments in love, it is necessary to take stock of those relationships that did not work out and to become aware of the causes of these failures. Make a list of things you no longer want in future relationships. This will allow you to avoid going back to profiles that have disappointed you in the past. Disappointments in love hurt, but at least they help us to clarify our expectations in love.

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What is fate? What does fate in life mean?

Fate is a sequence of events that form the fabric of a human life or a community. These events seem to be predefined, ordered by a higher or immanent power in the universe.

To act or to suffer in the face of fate? In this article, find out everything you need to know about fate and how to interpret it.

What is fate?

From the Latin "destinare", which means "to fix", fate is a sequence of events that form the framework of a human life or a community and that seems predefined, ordered by a higher power or immanent to the universe.

This sequence of events is opposed to chance and free will, while it comes close to the term fatality: it is indeed difficult, if not impossible, to escape one's fate.

In the Dictionary of Philosophical Concepts, Michel Blay refers to it as a "force of what happens and which seems to be imposed on us without any of our actions being able to change anything".

The origin of fate

The philosophical belief in fate originates from an attachment to explaining nature solely by means of matter and by establishing a causal link between things.

"If everything happens by virtue of antecedent causes, then all events are closely connected, naturally interwoven with one another, and if this is so, then everything is subject to necessity', argues Cicero.

Nevertheless, it is difficult to believe that man waited until antiquity to believe in fate.

This notion certainly arose before any philosophical reflection and even before any organised religion. It was a plausible answer to questions about unexplainable phenomena and had the merit of being simple: a single force, the expression of a higher will or inherent necessity, explained chaos.

Most cultures seem to have always rejected the idea of chance and free will.

Even today, with the decline of traditional religions, people still attach great importance to fate and determinism.

To act or to suffer in the face of fate?

The etymology of the word "destiny" tells us that it refers to fixation, determination, resolution or a decided project. Does this mean that life is only submission for those who believe in destiny?

Some authors, claiming to be stoics, believe that man has no impact on the course of events, however small.

Any hope of escaping his fate would therefore be vain. In other words: man's freedom does not exist and his responsibility is nil. Everything is dictated to him.

This does not necessarily translate into unhappiness while waiting for death: the Stoics claim that happiness is attainable for all those who voluntarily submit to their destiny by accepting the fate that awaits them.

On the contrary, other authors think that fate is only a global framework within which man has a certain freedom.

Fate does not control every moment of life. However, it does control the most important aspects of life, such as death and the major encounters in life.

Whatever happens, fate always wins. This does not prevent some people from wanting to escape fate and choose their own destiny.

Inspirational quotes

"For the ancients, the notion of fate, of fatum, does not lead to fatalistic submission or ascetic renunciation. On the contrary, it stimulates the desire for action.

Fatum is above all perceived as a challenge to man, a challenge which man knows very well in advance that he will never be able to meet entirely, but which he must nevertheless take up, because it is by taking it up that he gives meaning to his existence. It is because there is a destiny that the response that man can try to make to it is, in the true sense, heroic.

It is because there is a destiny that we must try to make our mark on it. By acquiring the intuition of his destiny, man is not less free; on the contrary, he recovers his fundamental freedom, which is first and foremost the privilege of consenting while acting.

"Fatum is an exhilarating idea when you understand that you yourself are part of it - There is only one path in the world that no one can follow but yourself. Voluntarily follow this path that others follow blindly. Nietzsche.

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Tate Britain, London. Information about London

Along with Tate Modern, Tate Liverpool and Tate St Ives, the Tate Britain Museum is part of the Tate Gallery network of museums founded by Henry Tate. It is one of the most comprehensive museums in the British art world, both in terms of the number of works and their quality.

History

The museum is housed in the original Tate Gallery building before it was divided into three other sites. It is a stately Portland stone building that was begun in 1983. It is situated on the original site of the former Millbank Prison.

The gallery opened on 21 July 1897 as the National Gallery of British Art, but soon became popularly known as the Tate Gallery after its founder Henry Tate.

Exhibitions

Since the transfer of much of the modern and contemporary art collection to the Tate Modern site in 2000, Tate Britain has held the world's most important collection of British art from the 1500s to the present day.

The museum is divided into three main sections. The first is historic British art with paintings and sculptures from the 1500s to the 1900s. The second is modern art from 1900 to 1960. The third part of the museum is completed by the exhibition of contemporary art with works dating from 1960 to the present day.

Among the works in the entire museum are works by renowned artists such as J.M.W Turner, Gainsborough, Constable, Millais, Burne-Jones, Whistler, Hogarth, Sargent, Sickert, Hepworth and Bacon.

There are frequent and interesting temporary exhibitions. Although admission to Tate Britain is free, a ticket is required to enter.

Location: Millbank, London SW1P 4RG, Reino Unido - +44 20 7887 8888

Boat: Tate Boat with parada en muelle de Millbank Millennium Pier.

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British Museum, London. Information about London

The British Museum is the largest museum in the United Kingdom and one of the most important in the world. Since its opening in 1759, it has amassed a collection of more than 7 million objects from every continent.

The building where the British Museum is currently housed is an imposing neoclassical building designed by Robert Smirkey and completed in 1857.

Over the decades the museum has undergone several extensions, which were necessary to accommodate its large art collections.

For space reasons, all of the more than seven million pieces are not on display at the same time, but some are rotated so that visitors can see other collections on subsequent visits. The rest are in the process of study and reconstruction.

The collections are perfectly divided according to their origin. Among the different departments are the Roman and Greek antiquities department; the ethnography department with objects from different indigenous peoples of the world; the Oriental antiquities department; the West Asian antiquities department with objects from 5,000 BC; and the Egyptian antiquities department, which is the most popular and has the most objects, including sarcophagi, mummies, papyrus and the famous Rosetta Stone.

The British Museum also has the so-called Reading Room, the former location of the British Library before it moved to another building nearby, which now holds over 40,000 volumes, a tiny part of the museum's collection of over 150 million books, maps, and a wealth of written documentation.

The best thing about the British Museum is that, unlike other museums, admission is free, which is an advantage if you want to visit over several days.

Location: Great Russell Street, London, WC1B 3DG.

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Buckingham Palace, London. Information about London

Buckingham Palace has been the official residence of the English Royal Family since 1837, when Queen Victoria took up residence here three weeks after her coronation. It is currently home to Queen Elizabeth II.

The original building was built in 1705 as a country house by John Sheffield, the Duke of Buckingham. In 1761 King George III bought the house for his wife and renovated it. In 1826 King George IV decided to convert the house into a Royal Palace but he and his successor died before the building was completed. Queen Victoria finally moved into the palace and it has been the official residence of the English monarchy ever since.

The palace was extended in 1850 with the addition of the east wing, where most of the palace's rooms and a large ballroom 40 metres long were added. The main façade facing St. James's Park dates from 1913.

Queen Elizabeth II and Philip Mountbatten (Duke of Edinburgh) occupy part of the palace, although the rest is used for official events and as residences for some officials. The palace has 600 rooms, a throne room, a ballroom, a picture gallery, a swimming pool and a large garden.

The use of space is approximately as follows: 52 rooms for the Royal Family and guests, 188 rooms for service personnel, 78 bathrooms and 92 offices.

Some of these rooms can be visited during the months of August and September when the Royal Family is not at the palace. The tour includes a total of 19 rooms such as the Throne Room, the Queen's Gallery and the Ballroom, where lavish state banquets are held. The tour also includes a walk through the palace garden.

Changing of the Guard

One of the daily activities at Buckingham Palace that attracts the most curiosity from tourists and has become quite a spectacle is the Changing of the Guard. The Changing of the Guard takes place at 11:30 am at the main entrance of the palace. The changing of the guard takes about 45 minutes and is accompanied by military music played by a band of soldiers.

Location: London SW1A 1AA, Reino Unido +44 303 123 7300

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Trafalgar Square, London. Information about London

Trafalgar Square is undoubtedly the most representative and famous square in London, the undisputed meeting point for Londoners, with a constant influx of tourists who consider this square an essential visit on their trip to the English capital.

The most characteristic feature of this square built in 1845 is its great column, which pays homage to Vice Admiral Horatio Nelson, who won the victory at the Battle of Trafalgar, which gives its name to the busy square. This column reaches a height of over 50 metres, topped by a sculpture of the Vice Admiral. Surrounding the obelisk is a bronze sculpture of giant lions cast by the architect Sir Edwin Lutyens. Flanking the column are harmonious fountains of crystal clear water that provide a breath of fresh air, especially on hot days.

To the north of the square stands the building that gives Trafalgar Square its majestic appearance. This is the National Gallery, which has the most important collection of paintings in England, with works dating from 1250 to 1900. Another building worth admiring is the church of St Martin in the Fields in the north-west corner.

Charing Cross is the name of a street leading off the square. This point corresponds to London's kilometre zero, just like Puerta del Sol in Madrid.

Around Trafalgar Square are London's busiest areas with numerous restaurants, cinemas, cafes and shops. These areas are Chinatown and Soho.

Location: Trafalgar Square, London WC2N 5DN, Reino Unido +44 20 7983 4750

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Westminster Abbey, London. Information about London

Westminster Abbey is London's oldest and most popular religious building. Its construction dates back to 1045 when the then King Edward the Confessor ordained it on the advice of the Pope.

Most of the church that can be seen today dates from between 1245 and 1517, when the original Romanesque style was replaced by a Gothic style rebuilt by Henry III to honour the memory of King Edward the Confessor. The two towers of the main façade were added to the basilica in 1745.

The basilica is famous not only for its architectural beauty and decoration, but also for the events it has hosted and the personalities buried inside.

Since the coronation of William the Conqueror in 1066, all the coronation ceremonies of the English monarchs have taken place in Westminster Abbey, except those of Jane Grey, Edward V and Edward VIII.

Among the famous people buried here are some of the kings of England and illustrious personalities such as Charles Darwin and Isaac Newton, among many others.

Location: 20 Deans Yd, London SW1P 3PA, Reino Unido. +44 20 7222 5152

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